If you think about it and you look around to the people that you know, you can even see this on social media as well. You’ll see people who get upset or happy, excited or whatever their feelings are.
Then they act based upon that feeling. They’re responsive to how they feel. Then over time, they begin to become defined by those actions, either as say somebody is a hot head or somebody has integrity or good character.
This can go good or it can go bad, but essentially what you’re doing is you’re letting your feelings determine who you want to be and who you want to become, when essentially this is backwards.
What you really want to do is have your identity determine what your actions will be and then whatever your actions will be will determine your feelings.
In other words, decide the type of person you want to be, what kind of person that you want to become. What kind of person do you want to be known for? Then make your actions of that type of person. Then when your actions are of that type of person, that will bring the feelings of that.
In other words, you’re not going to be living responsive to everything.
You are going to be deciding and laying down the foundations for your own destiny.
Originally posted here: http://www.elitefts.com/coaching-logs/what-does-your-identity-have-to-do-with-feelings/