Some days

Some days I can conquer the world.

Other days it takes me 3 hours to convince myself to bathe.

 

 

 

Just kiss the girl

Most of the times, I do not understand women.

They can be complicated, complex, highly intelligent, and clever sentient beings that never seem to follow the laws of nature.

This makes it hard for most of the guys to get their message across.

And thinking along these lines, many guys follow “rules” and “advice” given to them by others.

They read everything related to the subject matter they can find.

Just to be ready for when the opportunity is right.

Waiting for that perfect kiss.

And we apply the same logic to every other aspect of our lives. Our hobbies, a career change, or anything different we’d like to do.

We keep reading about it and finally when the opportunity comes, we feel like we’re not ready for it, because we don’t have the experience or skills to do it.

Think about this: why would you spend all this time and energy reading about and researching? Just so you can have the perfect kiss?

Bullshit.

Just kiss her. And you’ll learn things you won’t ever find out by reading and researching.

Things like the actual experience of doing it, trying and stumbling awkwardly, and the “chemistry”.

And that’s true for everything.

So stop preparing for it.

Just kiss the girl.

All in

A lot of people wait for the right set of cards to go all in.

A lot of people wait for the right time to go all in.

Or the right situation.

In life.

Only to end up never having played a single hand.

Whenever someone asks me when will I stop doing whatever it is I do, I tell them this:
“Never.”

Alright, I don’t say this to my mom or dad. So don’t tell them I said this.

But it’s all about creating an environment where you can go all in. And once you create that environment you should go all chips in.

But how do you know if your hand is good enough? How do you know you’ll be able to push through tough times? How do you know if this is your time to go all in?

I guess you need to ask yourself this:

“Are you going to regret NOT going all in in future?”

“Are you going to WISH that you should have taken that offer?”

“Or said YES to that guy/girl?”

“Or changed your life with a single decision but you didn’t?”

If your answer is NO, then you should not go all in. Work and wait for better set of cards instead. Improve the environment.

But if your answer is yes, then you should take all your chips and go all in.

And never look back.

Because of all the words of mice and men, the saddest are, “It might have been.”

Hey younger self

I was asked: if I could go back in time what would I say to my younger self?

I sat thinking.

So many things ran across my mind. I saw my younger self getting hurt and breaking his bones (literally). I would put my hands on his shoulder and help him get up and tell him everything will be fine. I would tell him keep doing what you’re doing, you’re going to have lots of stories to tell when you grow up.

I’d explain to him why every decision that went against him and every “unlucky” moment in his life was actually a good thing. How every problem would become a story. How every person he loved and lost would contribute to who he would become.

I’d tell him to keep looking forward.

To not dwell on his past.

To keep doing what he likes to do and not listen to others.

To not wait and ask her out already.

To say yes to more opportunities.

To not give a shit about unnecessary expectations.

To stop wasting time and learn something instead.

But then I pause. I think of how knowing all this ahead of time instead of experiencing it himself would be of less use to him.

If he wasn’t lost, he wouldn’t know what he needed to find.

So now I know.

If I go back, I would tell him nothing.

Because every problem, every fear, every emotion deeply felt by him would lead him to me.